Modern day dating...
It never ceases to amaze me...internet dating, dating site.....etc...
Why does one subscribe to these...to find a date I guess, so you fill in the details, make yourself sound attractive and then comes the photo...or not.
Never been one for blind dating I'm not going to start now,
Then there is the picure in the wedding dress......hmmm why is she divorced???
Then the picure with two or more people in, why would I be interested in the guy, and if more than two are they joined at the hip or which one is it...
Then the all time classic....the photo nicked from Fiesta....sadly the truth will out and if the saga begins with a lie........
I have often wondered why people sign up for these things, send winks and messages, never respond to replies or even never show up on the site again....makes it a bit pointless doesn't it!!!!!!

Well here we are, another week, another fruitless weekend, or was it. Brilliant tennis, pretty good weather and also a time for getting things done. Back on the issue of friendship it is sad when something that has the potential to be so good turns so bad. When the energies that could be spent on creating an unbreakable bond between two people get turned and are spent in destroying each other. Why is humankind like this??? It is said that you always hurt the one you love, is it because their is a belief that with true love there will always be forgiveness. I wonder!!!!
The question though remains whether love can overcome betrayal, deceit, loss of trust, where is that fine line where love turns to hate. In a world where friendship, love, trust is becoming harder and harder to find, why is it that for the sake of image, for the sake of control do people destroy all that is good....Beats me!!!

Friendship...
I once saw the definition of a true friend as being the person that does not come and visit you in jail, or one who bails you out but as one who is sitting in jail with you saying "What a blast, when can we do that again". I understand that to be someone who sticks with you thrugh thick and thin. I recently lost a friend, not because she was in jail but because I was doing what good friends do.....Unlike so many of her other friends who pussyfooted around her moods and her continual rantings about her failed relationship, I would take her to task. I would not allow her to wallow feeling sorry for herself, or allow her to use her feelings for the guy that has totally screwed up her mind as an excuse for not moving on. She got mad, told me I was not a friend, her friends were leaving her alone......
You may ask why I acted like I did....well many years ago I went through a bad relationship break up and was behaving just like her. Many of my friends left me alone, skirted the issue and left me to my self pity, except one......he would not, he believed that as a friend he needed to snap me out of it and there were times I hated him for doing it and told him. His always responded with the same reply that if his badgering snapped me out of it, if putting me straight was going to cost him my friendship then that is the price he was willing to pay......for being a true friend. We were friends for 31 years......RIP in Neil you were one in a million.
As for my "friend" who has decided to shun me for being a friend, one day you will look back with regret at a friendship lost, because when your "so called friends" have come and gone, fed up with your moods and anger you may not be able to find one of the best friends you may ever have had.

Wow, It has been forever since I last posted....so much has happened and I forgot the password too...hopefully now though I am back