Friendship...
I once saw the definition of a true friend as being the person that does not come and visit you in jail, or one who bails you out but as one who is sitting in jail with you saying "What a blast, when can we do that again". I understand that to be someone who sticks with you thrugh thick and thin. I recently lost a friend, not because she was in jail but because I was doing what good friends do.....Unlike so many of her other friends who pussyfooted around her moods and her continual rantings about her failed relationship, I would take her to task. I would not allow her to wallow feeling sorry for herself, or allow her to use her feelings for the guy that has totally screwed up her mind as an excuse for not moving on. She got mad, told me I was not a friend, her friends were leaving her alone......
You may ask why I acted like I did....well many years ago I went through a bad relationship break up and was behaving just like her. Many of my friends left me alone, skirted the issue and left me to my self pity, except one......he would not, he believed that as a friend he needed to snap me out of it and there were times I hated him for doing it and told him. His always responded with the same reply that if his badgering snapped me out of it, if putting me straight was going to cost him my friendship then that is the price he was willing to pay......for being a true friend. We were friends for 31 years......RIP in Neil you were one in a million.
As for my "friend" who has decided to shun me for being a friend, one day you will look back with regret at a friendship lost, because when your "so called friends" have come and gone, fed up with your moods and anger you may not be able to find one of the best friends you may ever have had.