Modern day dating...
It never ceases to amaze me...internet dating, dating site.....etc...
Why does one subscribe to these...to find a date I guess, so you fill in the details, make yourself sound attractive and then comes the photo...or not.
Never been one for blind dating I'm not going to start now,
Then there is the picure in the wedding dress......hmmm why is she divorced???
Then the picure with two or more people in, why would I be interested in the guy, and if more than two are they joined at the hip or which one is it...
Then the all time classic....the photo nicked from Fiesta....sadly the truth will out and if the saga begins with a lie........
I have often wondered why people sign up for these things, send winks and messages, never respond to replies or even never show up on the site again....makes it a bit pointless doesn't it!!!!!!

Well here we are, another week, another fruitless weekend, or was it. Brilliant tennis, pretty good weather and also a time for getting things done. Back on the issue of friendship it is sad when something that has the potential to be so good turns so bad. When the energies that could be spent on creating an unbreakable bond between two people get turned and are spent in destroying each other. Why is humankind like this??? It is said that you always hurt the one you love, is it because their is a belief that with true love there will always be forgiveness. I wonder!!!!
The question though remains whether love can overcome betrayal, deceit, loss of trust, where is that fine line where love turns to hate. In a world where friendship, love, trust is becoming harder and harder to find, why is it that for the sake of image, for the sake of control do people destroy all that is good....Beats me!!!

Friendship...
I once saw the definition of a true friend as being the person that does not come and visit you in jail, or one who bails you out but as one who is sitting in jail with you saying "What a blast, when can we do that again". I understand that to be someone who sticks with you thrugh thick and thin. I recently lost a friend, not because she was in jail but because I was doing what good friends do.....Unlike so many of her other friends who pussyfooted around her moods and her continual rantings about her failed relationship, I would take her to task. I would not allow her to wallow feeling sorry for herself, or allow her to use her feelings for the guy that has totally screwed up her mind as an excuse for not moving on. She got mad, told me I was not a friend, her friends were leaving her alone......
You may ask why I acted like I did....well many years ago I went through a bad relationship break up and was behaving just like her. Many of my friends left me alone, skirted the issue and left me to my self pity, except one......he would not, he believed that as a friend he needed to snap me out of it and there were times I hated him for doing it and told him. His always responded with the same reply that if his badgering snapped me out of it, if putting me straight was going to cost him my friendship then that is the price he was willing to pay......for being a true friend. We were friends for 31 years......RIP in Neil you were one in a million.
As for my "friend" who has decided to shun me for being a friend, one day you will look back with regret at a friendship lost, because when your "so called friends" have come and gone, fed up with your moods and anger you may not be able to find one of the best friends you may ever have had.

Wow, It has been forever since I last posted....so much has happened and I forgot the password too...hopefully now though I am back

Where has the time gone?????
Almost a year since my last post....scandalous no doubt but the time has shot by.
It has been a mixed bag so far, ups and downs and pretty frustrating but when I look at problems others have I guess things aren't so bad. Someone, somewhere once said that if we all stood in a field and threw our problems up in the air....as soon as we saw what others problems are like we would fight to get our own ones back again and I think there is a lot of truth in that.

I read a comment today and it made me wonder how the world got to be in such a mess. People at basic levels get on, they transgress cultural, religious and racial barriers, they work together, play together and even socialize together. On the net friendships develop, often friendships that transgress barriers that would prevent it in the real world.....so why is it our leaders, fundementalists cannot learn from this. People cannot and should not be dictated to as to whom they wish to befriend, or which religion or even the level of religious obedience they wish to practice. Why we cannot learn to recognize that we are all different and we cannot all be the same...it does not make us any a worse or better person for our beliefs. Too often religion is twisted to suit mans deviousness yet if we all respected the basic teachings of respect for others, their beliefs and property then would this world not be a better place?
I want a world that I want to raise children in...not wondering what fate I have brought them into the world to face. We need to exercise tolerance...except in the instance of dealing with those that are intolerant.....they must learn that the majority of this planet are not interested in the mayhem , death and destruction that results from a minority wishing to force their will on others.

Back again...
What a hectic few weeks. The World Cup entered well as I drew Italy in the office charity draw.....that gave a few pounds to charity and put a few pounds in my pocket which have already been spent on tickets for another charity do...........

The weather has been pretty good.....
BBQ after BBQ after BBQ a total of 5 over the past two weekends and now thankfully most of the entertaining is over until September.

Come August My wife and the boys are going to visit the mother outlaw...so back to being a bachelor for 10 days..........

For those that share my passion for planes....Farnborough Airshow this month...and that is going to be a great day out with the kids plus hoping the weather will allow for some great flying!!!!!

Well it's been a while.
It is amazing how one embarks on a project like a blog with all good intentions only to find that circumstances change and time just disappears...
It has been a busy few weeks, finally changed jobs and now work reasonable hours with the weekends "Free" and I say "free" because there are a multitude of jobs that need doing and the weather is not playing the game.
Drought they say, No water, no hosepipes yet we have not had a rain free day in weeks.
The kis are on holiday this week, yet again and itis so difficult to find time off. They really need to look at UK working hours. If reports are to be believed we work the longest hours for the worst pay in Europe........we need more time with the kids.....

This weekend, being Easter, and fortunately only having to work one day of the weekend led me to thinking of how our lifestyle impacts on family life. Work work and more work, and then to allow us to enjoy the time off or in most cases to allow us to get things done others have to work.
In the Christian world, Sunday is SUPPOSED to be a day of rest......but today it seldom is. Most work a 6 day week and that leaves Sunday to get things done, and capitalizing on that shops now remain open all week.....what of the families of those that now have to work on a Sunday.
There are many criticisms of the Western world, some just some unfounded however I think society as a whole is digging a hole for itself. Money, profit, greed are demanding we work more and as a result the very fabric of life, the family unit is disintegrating. Discipline is faltering, respect is fading and society seems oblivious..........sad really!